"I for one have not dated and fully understand the position that posits dating as a con-job where two people put up false identities of themselves for the other’s amusement. However, this cynicism is unjustified, because I am only speaking from other people’s experiences. Nevertheless, I hopelessly believed in the all-consummating 'one' who God would drop from heaven right into my lap. Again, this was naïve; because I assumed I would have to take no risks and that there would be no work for me to do." (>>)